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You stand in front of the mirror, take a deep breath, and say it: “I am confident and successful.” But a voice in the back of your head immediately screams, “No, you’re not! You’re a nervous wreck and you still haven’t finished that project.” You’re left feeling more discouraged than when you started. If you’ve […]

How do you talk to yourself when no one else is around? Is your inner voice a friend, or is it a harsh critic? The answer to that question lies at the heart of self-esteem. True self-worth isn’t about arrogance, ego, or thinking you’re better than others. It’s the quiet, internal sense of your own

A slight headache becomes a brain tumor. A delayed text message means a friendship is over. A small mistake at work means you’re definitely getting fired. If this kind of thinking feels familiar, you know how exhausting it can be to stop catastrophizing. Catastrophizing is a common cognitive distortion, or thinking error, where our minds

Feeling stuck is one of the most frustrating human experiences. It’s like being lost in a thick fog, where every direction looks the same and the path forward is completely hidden. When we’re in this state, our minds tend to focus obsessively on the fog itself. We analyze the problem, we worry about the problem,

An intrusive thought can feel like a mental pop-up ad that you can’t close. It’s an unwanted, often distressing thought or image that appears out of nowhere and gets stuck. Your natural reaction is to fight it, to argue with it, or to frantically try to push it away. But as you’ve probably noticed, the

Have you ever received a one-word text message and spiraled into hours of anxiety, convinced you did something wrong? Or had a small piece of feedback at work feel like a devastating critique of your entire worth? If so, you know what an emotional overreaction feels like. It’s when the size of your feeling seems

When a wave of sadness hits, our first instinct is to pull the covers over our head. When anxiety strikes, we feel a powerful urge to avoid whatever is making us scared. When anger flares, we want to lash out. Our emotions give us strong urges to act, and most of the time, we follow

Imagine a powerful storm. A rigid, old oak tree stands tall and unyielding, and in the face of the wind, it snaps. Nearby, a grove of bamboo bends and sways, yielding to the force of the storm, and when the wind passes, it stands tall once more. In the storms of life the unexpected changes,

Have you ever had a thought that just wouldn’t leave you alone? A worry, a self-criticism, or a painful memory that plays on a loop, no matter how hard you try to push it away. It’s like a song stuck in your head, but instead of a catchy tune, it’s a distressing feeling. Our natural

Anxious thoughts can feel like a room with only one window, and the view is always scary. When a thought like “I’m going to fail” or “Everyone is upset with me” takes hold, it can seem like the only possible reality. We can feel trapped, staring at that one frightening view, forgetting that other windows—other

You send a text to a friend, and an hour passes with no reply. Immediately, your mind starts to spin a story: “They’re mad at me. I must have said something wrong. They’re ignoring me.” A simple, observable event has now become a painful emotional drama. But what is the actual, undeniable fact in that

Does your mind ever feel like it’s been hijacked by a critical inner roommate? A voice that whispers (or shouts) that you’re not good enough, that you’re going to fail, that everything is bound to go wrong. These loops of negative thoughts can be exhausting, draining your energy and casting a dark shadow over your

When we talk about mental health, we often focus on what’s wrong—anxiety, stress, depression. But that’s only half of the picture. True mental health isn’t just the absence of illness; it’s the presence of wellness. It’s the ability to feel joy, to have energy and enthusiasm for life, and to feel connected to the world

Have you ever noticed how a heavy, greasy lunch can leave you feeling sluggish and foggy in the afternoon? Or how too much coffee can turn your focus into a jittery, anxious buzz? We often sense that there’s a link between what we eat and how we feel, but we rarely pause to explore it.

It starts with a single thought. A small disappointment, a moment of self-doubt, a flicker of worry. But then, it gathers momentum. The thought triggers a low feeling, which makes you want to withdraw. Your withdrawal then confirms the initial thought, and the cycle continues, pulling you down faster and deeper like a whirlpool. This